All of us struggle with some form of sexual brokenness, whether through our thoughts, actions, or the effect of others actions toward us. We believe that God made us inherently sexual beings and thus a core component of Christian discipleship must include hope, healing and freedom in our sexuality.
Cornerstone Community Church is proud to partner with Pure Desire Ministries International (PDMI), who have been leading the way for over 20 years to help men and women find hope, freedom, and healing from sexual brokenness through Jesus Christ. They develop the materials, we lead the groups. Pure Desire groups support men, women and teens by providing a safe, confidential place to process their life story: learning how family of origin, traumatic experiences, and wounding messages impact relationships.
Current & Upcoming Groups:
Men’s Groups – Led by Mike O’Neal and Tom Trebing. Appropriate for men age 18 and older. We have 2 active men’s groups with a new group starting every 6 months.
Teen Boys – We have 1 active teen group with a new group starting every 7-8 months
Women’s Groups – We are currently praying that God will send someone to lead our women only groups. PDMI offers women’s on-line groups, which can be accessed through the PDMI website.
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Men’s Groups:
MEN – Conquer Series – The Battle Plan for Purity: The Conquer Series is for any man who has ever struggled. At some point, every man will be tempted to sin sexually. The difference between prevailing and failing comes down to having a battle plan in place. The Conquer Series video curriculum is comprehensive, training men to fight and win against sexual sin, teaching them how to live in sexual purity, This intensive discipleship course will take you out of your comfort zone, so expect to be challenged. This course accompanied by a Study Guide and Journal is a 10 week curriculum.
MEN – Seven Pillars to Freedom: Helps men gain a greater understanding of the addiction process and how to break free from unwanted sexual behaviors, providing the safety, support, and tools needed to establish lifelong healing. Biblically and clinically based. These high commitment small groups typically run for about 10 months and has 4-6 people.
https://www.puredesire.org/shop/seven-pillars-of-freedom-kit
MEN – The Compassionate Warrior: This 20-lesson group experience is intended to take men deeper in their healing: deeper in relationship with God, with the people they love, with their family and friends, and even with themselves. This holistic approach will address aspects of what they need to be healthy in several areas of their lives: physically, emotionally, relationally, sexually, and spiritually. In this follow up to Seven Pillars of Freedom, The Compassionate Warrior will empower men to create lasting change for the long haul. This journey is not only about gaining sobriety and maintaining recovery; it now includes learning how to serve others. It’s about being other-oriented.
https://www.puredesire.org/shop/the-compassionate-warrior-kit
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Women’s Groups (Only PDMI Online at this time):
WOMEN – Betrayal & Beyond: For women who have suffered betrayal due to the sexual issues of their partner. Healing comes from understanding the role of trauma, establishing healthy boundaries, exploring the depth of forgiveness, and learning to live in restoration. Designed to reveal the truth and nature of sexual addiction, how women are wounded by their partner’s behaviors, and the roadmap to healing. These high commitment small groups typically run for about 8 months and include 4-6 people.
WOMEN – Unraveled: Many women who struggle with love, sex, porn, and relationship addictions are unable to sustain healthy relationships with romantic partners, family members, and friends. We desperately want to feel loved and accepted, but are continually disappointed by relationships. The pain and shame of our unwanted sexual behaviors leads us to a place we never intended. But there is hope! Through the use of weekly exercises, strategic tools, and a self-care focus, learn how to live in health—how to unravel the messiness of relationships. Discover how lifelong healing comes from a greater understanding of who God is and who He created us to be in Unraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and Relationships.
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Teen Group:
TEEN BOYS – Living Free: Specifically designed for teens (15-18) and college-aged men, Living Free represents decades of experience in helping individuals identify and understand the underlying factors that create and reinforce habitual sexual behavior. Utilizing a gospel-centered combination of clinical data and biblical truths, Living Free will help you discover the sources of past pain and experiences that set you up for coping through sexual sin, while finding freedom and healing through Jesus.
Intended for a small group and planned around a semester system, Living Free will help you experience greater intimacy with Jesus and others, while thriving throughout the stresses of college life.
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Family Ministries:
Tools/Books for Families – The following Tools/Books can be purchased from the PDMI website.
FATHERS & SONS – Father-Son Accountability: a guide for fathers who want to connect with their sons and help avoid the trap of pornography addiction. Like never before, easy access to pornography is pushing our younger generations into a pornified world. The spiritual and mental danger this presents to our children cannot be ignored by fathers. Unfortunately, we often don’t know how to respond to this growing threat. There is good news, John and Lucas Fort’s book, Father-Son Accountability, is an eight week study that walks a father and son through the challenges and issues that many children face. Some of the topics to be addressed include: – How do we build a real and safe relationship with our sons? – What questions should we should ask our sons? – How much or our own story should we share? – What can a father realistically expect from a son? John Fort is a pornography recovery specialist who faced these questions when his own son neared the end of his grade school years. John and his son Lucas wrote this book to help fathers and sons to build a high level of vulnerability and openness as they find alternatives to porn and unwanted sexual behaviors. This is a book for fathers and sons, written by a father and son.
MOMS & DAUGHTERS – Girl Talk: This 8-week guide was created to help moms and daughters move beyond one-and-done conversations and build a lasting culture of connection. Each week includes Girl Talk prompts—simple, guided questions and tools to spark honest conversations, connection, and reflection. What You’ll Need To get the most out of this experience, we recommend purchasing a copy of the book for both you and your daughter(s). This gives each of you space to: – Reflect individually – Jot down thoughts or doodle in the margins – Highlight key takeaways – Dog-ear pages for future chats – Mentally prepare to share Make it a Weekly Rhythm, Set aside 20–30 minutes a week for your time together. Make it something to look forward to!
PARENTS – How to Talk with Your Kids About Sex: Most parents dread “the conversation.” They don’t know how or when to talk to their kids about S-E-X. However, the mismanagement of sexuality is so prevalent in our world that understanding what is good and healthy about sex is a great place to start—not just for our kids, but for us too. In How To Talk With Your Kids About Sex, Rodney and Traci Wright help parents navigate what it looks like to have an ongoing conversation with their kids, based on 10 foundational principles. In many ways, this book is a template for continuous education, communication, and growth in the area of healthy sexuality. As parents, we have the opportunity to provide for our children a healthier pathway forward than many of us were given. If understood and managed correctly, our sexuality can be the source of some of life’s greatest joys and blessings—Heaven on earth!
https://www.puredesire.org/shop/how-to-talk-with-your-kids-about-sex
ALL – Sexual Integrity 101 Video Course: This 8-week video course can be completed in a group setting or on your own. Here’s what to expect: Each 40-50 minute session includes: – A deep-dive into the factors that contribute to unwanted sexual behaviors – Interviews with experts in the field of sexual health – Testimonies of those transformed through a safe, grace-filled process – Practical tools and strategies that lead to lasting health, A companion workbook which: – Follows along with each session – Leads you through reflection questions – Includes weekly exercises. This video training is for men, women, students, pastors, lay leaders, parents, and more. It’s for anyone who wants to find freedom from the effects of unwanted sexual behaviors and betrayal. This course will show how shame and grace affect the healing process, give understanding about addiction and betrayal trauma, and get you started on the path to sexual health.
Regarding the SI101 video, this is available at no cost if you attend Cornerstone Community Church. You need to purchase the accompanying Workbook, but not the video. Contact Mike O’Neal to obtain access to the video.
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Contact Our Team Privately –
All information is Confidential
If you’re struggling with some form of unwanted sexual behavior or with the trauma of betrayal from the sexual issues of a loved one, we’d love to help. If you’re interested in joining a group or have questions, fill out the form below and we will get you in contact with the individual or group best for you.
Men: Mike O’Neal & Tom Trebing
mike@cornerstone-apex.org & tom@cornerstone-apex.org
Teens: Zach Smith
zach@cornerstone-apex.org
All contacts and group rosters will be kept confidential.
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Pure Desire Contact Form:
Contact us
The Pure Desire Ministry at Cornerstone Community Church, led by Mike O’Neal and co-led by Tom Trebing, are available for support and guidance. They have a whole team of leaders to assist. Fill in the contact form above for more information.